The post below is the post for tomorrow, so if you read it now, please know there will be NO new post tomorrow. I put it up early because I really don't think I'll have time to do it tomorrow. I have to bake cupcakes, clean the house, go pick up some random items, drop my son at his Grandma's, pick up my sister and my God-daughter, a few other things, and probably get into it with my mother in law. (You'll hear my complain about my Mother in law a lot probably. I'm sorry if this gets old, but the woman is horrible. She is controlling, manipulative, stupid, and racist, as well as a few other things. For the quick backstory on why we're probably going to get into it now {normally I don't even try to argue with the idiot} is she was "sick" on my wedding day and didn't come, "sick" at my baby shower, "sick" when my son was born, she kept playing games when my son was born, showing up WAY earlier than she said, or HOURS late, staying for hours on end, getting offended when we asked them to leave even thought they had been here for hours, not doing anything to help out, and I needed to pump. Now she's claiming she's coming down with something. Right before his birthday party. It's a ploy to get attention, and I'm done. Sorry for the rant, but I'm actually really pissed off. It's one thing to try to steal my spotlight when it's a big day for me, that's whatever. But her one year old Grandson? Cut me a break.)
Anyway, I'm posting it now, so again, if you read it tonight, there will be nothing tomorrow.
Breaking the Surface
9 years ago
7 comments:
Good luck with your mother-in-law. She's a bwitch! It's okay to rant about people like that!
So sorry to hear that you have such an evil person as a mother-in-law. I do not blame you one bit for ranting, I would be doing more than that!
Maybe just don't invite her next time and when she compains about that you can tell her you were saving from being sick again. After all, in her old age you wouldn't want her to come down with something that might be serious. :)
Yeah, well. It's even more annoying because she tries to give us these guilt trips. Like we didn't see her for a couple of weeks once because our schedules didn't match up, and then when we were supposed to see her, she ended up going to the hospital (she really was sick that time, she had vertigo, but it wasn't our fault we didn't see her, you know?) Anyway, she kept giving me a big guilt trip "Can you pencil us into your busy schedule" "I know you guys are busy but we'd sure love to see you." And it's like, it's not our fault that we DIDN'T see you. I mean it wasn't her fault that she got sick that time either, it was just sucky timing. But then she won't call us to make plans, won't call me back when I try to make plans (so I quit calling.) But then will call the day before or the day of and be shocked when we're busy.
On top of it all, she's constantly begging me to print her pictures and buying Cayden all these toys and expensive baby stuff to keep at her house. And it's pointless. He's been there maybe 10 times since he was born, less than once a month. I just really see it as a ploy for her to show off pictures and have people see her house is full of baby stuff so that people think she's such a great grandma, when really she sucks.
There are other reasons too. I could literally go on FOREVER about the things she's done, but snubbing my son on his first birthday just because she can't stand that the attention isn't on her is where I draw the line. It's about to get rough for her.
I know exactly what you are going through. My mother in law is the same way. She needs attention on herself at all times. To hell with anyone her children, the grandchildren, anyone that is not her. for mother's day she gets mad if anyone says happy mother's day to anyone else besides her because she is " queen mother" and deserves the attention before she dies. THe funny thing is she is a bad mother, she has the nerve to tell everyone else how they are bad mothers, but she seriously was the worse. she put up with her kids cause she had to. she acts like she is a big martyr. when really she is a alcoholic who cared more about her partying than she did her kids. She ruined my kids 4th birthday party too cause she was sick. conveniently that is the party she convinced me to have at her house. Whaddaya know it she gets gravely sick and everyone is at her side while the birthday boy sings happy birthday with the 6 other kids who are there and doesn't even get to hit the pinata cause the sound of the stick against the material is hurting her headache. what a nutjob.
hang in there hon. it will get easier to ignore her. belive me 10 years and I finally know how to keep my head held high through all her insanity. =o)
Yeah, at least I can say I'm learning how NOT to be an in law from her.
My Mother in law LOVES to sit there and judge me and my parenting choices, from what pediatrician I decided to use ("are you sure she's good?" No. I found her on the side of the street smoking crack, but hey, she's cheap!) to how many times I change his diaper. She's constantly questioning EVERYTHING I do, while at the same time going "Now I don't know anything about babies, I had my one 30 years ago!" All that says to me is "I know nothing about babies but since I'm questioning you, you must know even less!" It's just annoying.
And then she told me point blank "You need to get on having more children, and make sure it's a girl, we're not getting any younger!"
This was a couple months after my son was born, and I wasn't even supposed to think about getting pregnant for at least a year, if not longer.
Some mother in laws are great, I have friends with amazing mother in laws. I just didn't get so lucky on the draw. However, I do adore my father in law.
BTW, my MIL found out that her brother (My husbands Uncle, who I ADORE him and his wife) and coming to the party. And wouldn't you know it, she's feeling MUCH better.
My husband and I both don't care for our respective mother-in-laws, but we have developed a way to get through it...we just say "however it is she acts, it doesn't matter, cause she still produced you".
My mother-in-law is a hermit who works as a corrections officer and lives on a farm, lol. But even if the only good thing she did was show my husband how not to be, then she's still tolerable in my book. My husband says the same thing when it comes to my mom and her relationships...she showed me how not to be and he's thankful cause he says I'm wonderful, haha.
Have a Hap-Hap-HAPPY birthday party, wee-Cayden!!! Make a special wish on the first star you see tonight, (or, on whatever night the stars are visible, that is). Good energy coming your way...love, Witchy.
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